My name is Mark Goodfield. Welcome to The Blunt Bean Counter ™, a blog that shares my thoughts on income taxes, finance and the psychology of money. I am a Chartered Professional Accountant. This blog is meant for everyone, but in particular for high net worth individuals and owners of private corporations. My posts are blunt, opinionated and even have a twist of humour/sarcasm. You've been warned. Please note the blog posts are time sensitive and subject to changes in legislation or law.

Monday, October 18, 2021

Considerations in selecting an executor and accepting the executor appointment!

Last week, Rob Carrick the personal finance columnist for The Globe and Mail, in his Carrick on Money Newsletter (the newsletter is generally only available to Globe subscribers) asked David Edey a Certified Executor Advisor questions on his experience as an executor. These experiences and frustrations are detailed in Mr. Edey's book Executor Help: How to Settle an Estate Pick an Executor and Avoid Family Fights.

The book summary states “The grief, frustration, and stress of that experience were life-altering for David. He was determined to write this book in order to help others successfully navigate the difficult tasks of estate planning and executorship—so that their families could stay together”. 

I have not yet read the book, but as an accountant on numerous estates and a multi-time executor, I understand what drove David to author the book. Rob’s discussion of the topic in his newsletter provided me the impetus to offer a few comments of my own on the topic. So today, I discuss some considerations in selecting an executor and some of the less pleasant tasks that may be part and parcel of being appointed an executor.

Who Makes a Good Executor?

I have noted in blog posts over the years that a potential executor should have the following characteristics:

(1) Financial acumen and investing experience
(2) Be detailed oriented
(3) Handle stress well
(4) Be able to deal with people, including those acting irrationally (inheriting money does funny things to people)
(5) Be results driven

I have been involved with a couple of executors who did not have the above characteristics, especially the financial acumen and ability to handle stress. Those estates went off the rails and took years to settle. So carefully consider the above characteristics in selecting an executor.

Should you name your children as executors?

This is the $64,000 question. Assuming there are no “black sheep” in the family and all the siblings get along, you would think naming all your children would be a good idea. Sometimes the answer is yes, as they can share the burdensome and time-consuming duties as co-executors and utilize their individual strengths. Other times, being named co-executors can adversely affect your children’s relationship as the stress of settling the estate and distributing money creates discontent amongst the children.

So, should you select only one or two children who meet the above characteristics? Again, the answer can sometimes be yes, where the other children trust they are competent and even-handed. On other occasions, children may feel resentment that the parent did not name them as an executor and their siblings are favoured or given preferential treatment by their parents.

You may be saying to yourself, Mark has not answered whether I should name my children as executors, he has just given me a maybe yes and maybe no answer. But that is the reality. You need to look at your children with a cold realistic view and not your rose-colored glasses to decide if they have one of more of the characteristics to be an executor. You also need to speak to them and ask them if they feel they can work together (see discussion below). If you are not satisfied on all accounts, you may want to consider a professional corporate executor so that your children will only have to deal with an independent third party.

Do you think the executor would like to know they are being named?

Many years ago, I wrote a blog post titled "Speak to your Executor – Surprise only works for Birthday Parties, not death". You would be shocked at how many people are named an executor without prior notice. You always want to inform your executor they are being named and confirm they are comfortable with being named an executor. The last thing you want is to die and have your executor renounce their executorship. As noted above, where you have more than one executor, you want to ensure they are willing to work together, whether they are your children, friends, professional advisors, or any combination of the above.

Does an executor have to do all the work?

A well-run estate utilizes accountants for tax preparation and estate planning advice and a lawyer for estate and legal advice. You may also have to hire a specialist to prepare the passing of accounts (a summary for the court of the estate). While these costs can add up, the expression penny wise pound foolish has applied to many executors. The accountants and lawyers can also act as buffers for the family, as they act as independent advisors and can deflect some of the pressure put on the executor(s) by the beneficiaries. I have heard many an executor say, "it was the accountant's/lawyer's suggestion".

There is typically a significant amount of mundane work in settling an estate. Writing and dealing with financial institutions, games of hide and seek to find assets etc. An executor may consider asking for the assistance of their family members who are not executors to help with some of these administrative tasks; assuming they are willing and the other family members are fine with their assistance.

Sadly, I must inform you, even where you delegate and use professionals, you are likely in for a very time consuming task as an executor.

I want my Money!

In my experience, an executor will be asked to distribute money sooner than later by one or more of the beneficiaries. This is one of the most stressful aspects of being an executor, since in many cases you are unsure of what will be left of the estate following the sale of the estate's assets and the income taxes on the estate. 

It is important you do not make an interim or final distribution (see this blog post on obtaining a clearance certificate) of money until you consult with your accountants and lawyers. The last thing you ever want to have to do, is go back to the beneficiaries and tell them they were overpaid, and they must return money. This is very messy, and you could end up having personal liability for the estate. So always ensure you review any distributions with your professionals before distributing any money or assets to the beneficiaries.

An executor’s job is arduous, time consuming (it can take years to settle some estates), stressful and a messy estate can fracture family relationships. You therefore need to consider the selection of your executor(s) very carefully (especially when you will involve your children), ensure you advise them and confirm that they are willing to accept the appointment. If you are asked to become an executor, consider carefully whether you wish to accept the appointment; you may also want to consider buying David's book.

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  1. I've been through the executor minefield twice. Wish I had these suggestions before accepting the role.

    1. Thx Vince for sharing your experience. Unfortunately in many cases, those appointing executors and those accepting, do so with little fore thought.

  2. If you are named executor It is productive to do pre-settlement work. In other words, you start your executor work before the person dies; you try to help the person who has named you as an executor- sell properties and consolidate his assets prior to death. This pre-settlement work may involve the same amount of work as being the executor but having these affairs simplified before death may allow the executor to deal with fewer issues as well as the grief from the loss of the family member later on. You are basically elongating the executor job before death for less stress after death.

    Such a pre-settlement work may be difficult in the case of elderly individuals but if the named executor does most of the leg work with permission from the elderly individuals, it is possible to decrease the number of issues that will be faced at a later date.

    I do feel that being an executor is a painful job and it may indeed take years to settle an estate especially when there are multiple asset types to deal with. In addition, it's lonely work and requires investigative skills, an endless determination to follow up on each and every asset such as missing stocks, as well as the ability to deal with lawyers, accountants, bank officers (estate divisions are notoriously slow as their clients are dead) and family members who may not understand the amount of work and time required for even going through probate and getting a letter of administration. Until you go through this fire, you don't really understand the scorching you will get.

    1. Hi Julie:

      To the extent the person who has named you executor is willing to arrange and simplify their affairs, I agree with you that pre-settlement work is pro-active and smart. I wrote a post along those lines a couple years ago,